Your Secret Weapon: First Impressions
It is very common in European culture to bring a gift when you see friends, or family. This gift can vary from a bottle of wine to flowers, or anything of value that you feel is a reasonable contribution based on the circumstances. Although the value of this gift can vary greatly, it is the action, or the expression of the gift giving process which makes this so unique.
We are not speaking for everyone, but in America you are far less likely to receive a gift when seeing friends, or even meeting people for the first time. Sure, if there is a party we are expected to bring alcohol, or at a pre-planned potluck we bring an extra dish. This doesn’t hold the same value as someone going out of there way to unexpectedly grab a gift as a way of saying thank you, nice to meet you, or I was thinking about you.
The reason that this is important is not about what you buy, or even why you bought it. It is important because of the feeling that you leave someone with. It feels good to be thought about, not just when you are with someone, but also when you are away from them. This is not solely exclusive to intimate relationships, best friends, or family members. This can also be applied to business relationships that are more formal. Regardless of who you are, and what you do, you are far more likely to have an interaction with a human than a robot today. People want to be loved, and always want to give love. Being impressionable takes just a little bit of effort and thought, which leads us to our next point of discussion, the first impression.
The power of the first impression is unlike anything else. It is the first, and last opportunity where you can have an absolutely tremendous impact on those around you in terms of what they think, and how they feel about you. First, before we proceed, regardless of what people think about you, it doesn’t matter, but when you make a good impression on someone, they will be much more willing to be apart of your story. Your story matters more to you than anything else, and when people see that you are going places, they will want to tag along for the ride.
Our advice on first impressions:
- Treat everyday as a first impression, because you never know who you might see, what you might do, and where you might end up. Always be authentic, and don’t be afraid to share your opinion with others, professionally speaking. Even if you have known someone for years, it’s still possible to change the way they think about you with one more outing. Times change, and so do people, take the very next opportunity to blow your friends away, and do something unexpected.
- The devil is in the details, so please dress accordingly. Dress up from head-to-toe, and wear something that makes you feel amazing on the inside, as well on the outside. When you are feeling confident, intrinsically, there is no limit to what you can do.
- Put on your game face, and no not literally. This is not an advertisement for cosmetics, this is more related to your mental make-up. Don’t be afraid to channel your inner (insert whatever) in order to prepare yourself for the big moment. Some of us need a proper mirror-to-self stare down in the early morning, while others need to jam in their vehicle ridiculously loud at 8am. You know who you are!
- Giving gifts is so underrated and is an opportunity that you could easily capitalize on. The trick to this is to not think about it, just do it. Head to your nearest market, by some flowers (avoid roses), or give a gift card such as an American Express, or Visa. You are not only guaranteed to spin heads, but there is a strong chance that you may leave your guess totally perplexed as to what just happen. They may ask you “why”, or “what for”, while your response can be simple, yet powerful. “Just Because”. Imagine, that a small gesture could have such a large impact on someone’s day in a very positive way.
- Follow up with your meetings, or meet ups by sending a nice email or message after the event has occurred. Something as simple, as a “thank you for the great time”, will suffice. People want to know that there time was properly spent, and will set an emotional value to determine if it was, or wasn’t.
The path that you are on today is a journey, not a destination. The world’s most successful people, businesses, or initiatives don’t happen overnight. They are an accumulation of tedious tasks, and steps taken in the right direction that make up what you are, and who you are today. You need to go through life, make some mistakes, learn from them, and continue to grow and manifest. Be the best person that you can be today, everyday, and everything else will fall into line!
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