A case for living with less, which equates to more.
How can you love something, or someone whole-heartedly when you can only dedicate a limited portion of your time to it? Everyday there are distractions that beg for your attention ranging from family, friends, work, your social life. Due to the amount of distractions, our attention spans have dwindled, leaving you with the inability to focus on the things that most deserve your time
Technology has found its place in our world, and it isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Like practicing mindfulness, the goal isn’t to clear out the “distractions” per-say. The goal is to find peace among the many distractions, which allows you to be omnipresent and aware of yourself mentally. Mindfulness is one of the “tools” you can use to improve your mental health, but for some of us it is a large step in a direction we are not ready to take.
What can I do?
If you have anything in common with most working class millennials, you may be subconsciously inhibiting yourself from “progressing”. The term “progressing” is vague, but can be applied to your personal growth, education, relationships, career, and social life. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve plateaued, the following information was created just for you. The best way to go about making change begins with you, and your life “approach”. There is a theory that explains the benefits of living life minimally. Perhaps you feel you already live this way, but the truth is that your idea of a minimal life may be excessive in the eye’s of someone else.
First, start by reviewing yourself. Do you live life excessively? If you had to pack up and leave everything today could you? Would you? Do you own too much? Do you feel like you don’t have enough? These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answer will reveal a lot about yourself. It’s easy to say “I don’t have enough”, or “I don’t have a lot”, but think about people who don’t have the life you do. When thinking about your problems, imagine a life with the problems of someone who struggles to get by with even the basics necessities.
Your relationships deserve nothing less than everything you have to offer. According to a recent scientific study, even with social media as a tool to manage your relationships, the amount of relationships you can have at any given time is about 150. This doesn’t include your ability to call, text, and hangout with these people within a given week. This number isn’t a realistic representation of value. The more you invest in a relationship, the more you get back from it. It is more beneficial to have 1 intimate friendship, than having 10 good friends.
You don’t need to delete all the numbers in your phone, but you should try thinking about 3 to 5 people you enjoy hanging out with. Once you have the group set, work on communicating and scheduling meet ups with them. Understand that these people may not include you in their 3 to 5, but that doesn’t matter. In time they will start to feel a change in the way you approach your relationship. This will add a tremendous amount of value to your relationships.
Try understanding relationship value in ratios and percentages. For example in business, there is an argument that says “the value of 1,000 people is equal to that of 10,000”. This means that more isn’t always better. For example, if 20% of your clients are the ones that give the most value, the goal should be to increase that percentage, regardless of the size of your client base. Expanding your business, and growing doesn’t mean that the value you are adding will equate to the same value when you add more.
The millennial minimalist is someone who lives life with less. Investing more energy and love into fewer things, and fewer relationships, will increase their value dramatically. What do you think?
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