In this article we discuss an argument that supports putting friends and family first, and everything else second.
You are a busy person. We understand. You have a lot of things going on, we understand. You are busy at work, trust us we understand. Ok, we get it, but enough, these are all excuses. You have one life to live, so why don’t you consider living it on your own terms? As Americans we come up with excuses every single day as to what we are doing, why we are doing it, and how much of your life it requires to do it. Have you ever taken a chance to stop and think that the aforementioned statements have become redundant?
It’s time you start taking your relationships seriously, otherwise let’s face it, they are not relationships. They are just people. They are people who you just happen to have their phone numbers. You just happen to be friends on Facebook, or Instagram, and you run into them at Whole Food’s every now and then. These are not friends, they are acquaintances. You have met them before, you will see them again and you probably don’t have a genuine interest in knowing more about them (such as a friend of an ex that happens to be cool, but there is no real value in that relationship). Ok, that was too much. A tad bit too dramatic, but nonetheless a true statement.
In this article we are going to discuss the value of having real relationships, and how we should treat them. Otherwise they aren’t real relationships.
I’m sorry, something came up!
We’ve heard this so many times. Enough times that well, we are tired of hearing it. So many times people will reach out to you to schedule a time to meet, and then cancel on you for what ever the reason. You are a level-headed person so it doesn’t bother you at all, in fact you have plenty of things going on so it will be the last thing that you think about. Wrong! Even if the aforementioned is true and it doesn’t bother you that people cancel, it should! When someone asks you to reserve an hour of your time, really it takes about 3 hours, if not more. Let’s account in the other potential dates you could have set up, the amount of time you set away for travel to-and-from, and lastly the emotional investment whether it is excitement, or grief all the same there is a cost.
I have too much work!
Sorry, no you don’t. Lets spend a month in China, or South America, or Mexico, where the exchange rate is highly favorable to you as an American. The realities are that these people work 14+ hours per day, everyday. What makes it worse is that they make the exact same amount as you do, except $2,000 USD is a lot more favorable than $2,000 RMB (Yuan). Your 8 hours a day may seem like a lot, but the truth is that it isn’t. Let’s be more appreciative of what we have. If you aren’t willing to step outside of your comfort zone, then listen to others that tell you that you do not work that much work, sorry.
Now you understand why America is the greatest country in the world.. Think about it? If you live in a 3rd world country and you could potentially come to America, work the same amount, if not less, and make 5x more money! You would be happy too!
Commit to something!
Have you heard of the latest Equinox campaign, “commit to something”? It is awesome because it is true and a rare occurrence at the same time. If you commit to spending time with a friend, you schedule it and then you realize there is a work event, then be honest with yourself. Be honest not only with yourself, but be honest with everyone else who is involved. Honesty earns respect. Respect allows for tenure in anything you do. Imagine if you commit to a friend and then on the day of the meet-up of you realize that you have a work party. What should you do? Be honest, be reasonable, be different. What most people would do in this situation is succumb to the pressure of work and attend the work party, leaving your friend in the dust. What if you told your boss that you had prior engagements, this friend is very important to you (as is work), and you can’t cancel on them? You would be a hero. It is risqué, it is abnormal, but it is honest, truthful and different.
Perception is reality.
You can be whomever it is you want to be. You can be the person who is known to be flakey, or you can be the person who is known to be reliable. The choice is yours. Regardless of which position you decided to take the last thing you do, or say with a person most likely will be the last thing that they remember, not the first, second, or third, just the last (don’t forget first impressions are important!).
In summary, put people first. Put relationships first. If you are young, don’t work 8-10 hour days, work 12-14 hour days, consistently. You are young, your body is like elastic, it will move back into its proper shape with a weekend’s worth of sleep. If you are older, dedicate the time and use it wisely. Chance are you won’t parse out your time just for anyone. Make it special, make it memorable.
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